I am part of the baby boomers. Growing up was a different age when it came to men dealing with their emotions. Men did not show any tenderness, anger was the only emotion that was displayed. It was the age of westerns, cops and robbers, if you fell and hurt yourself you often would hear “suck it up and take it like a man”. God forbid if you cried, if you did you were more than likely called a sissy. Among many you would also hear the phrase “keep a stiff upper lip”.
I am not sure that we have moved passed that era, I sometimes see signs that gives me hope that men are more comfortable showing their tender moments openly. So, could it be that maybe men are not reporting when they are having a breakdown in their mental health. It just might be that they are suffering in silence, they do not want to be thought of as weak.
For me it was my first time in treatment that I reconciled within myself to be comfortable with my emotions other than just when I was angry.
I cannot recall ever hearing my dad say to myself or my siblings that he loved us. However, I do recall many times when he would erupt in anger.
If you are a man reading this let me say one thing, “Big boys can cry!”
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