Success Is In The…


“Define success on your own terms, achieve it by your own rules, and build a life you’re proud to live.”
 Anne Sweeney, an American businesswoman, co-chair of Disney Media, and President of Disney Channel from 1996-2014.

When I traveled with the evangelist sometimes if I knew there was a better organist I would step aside and let them play.  One day another musician came to me and said, “never take a back seat at the organ, you are just as good as the others”.  I didn’t feel like I was a success, I was measuring my success against those of others.  I never stepped aside ever again to another musician.

I have most of my life compared myself against others.  I always felt like I just didn’t measure up.  I was at a Preacher’s convention, it was a morning service and there was no musician.  They asked if there was a piano player available.  I raised my hand but I was ignored.  The host told me I didn’t look good enough.  I didn’t have a suit back then because my parents could not afford me the luxury.  Those words from that host stuck with me for quite some time.

“Being a successful person is not necessarily defined by what you have achieved, but by what you have overcome.”- Fannie Flagg

Several years ago after being in treatment I finally came to the realization that I was killing myself trying to be the most popular guy in the room.  News flash, I quit the popularity race!

So dear reader, success is in the eye of the beholder!


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  1. Halbarbera

    To me, success is an outcome of experience not so-called school earned information and degrees. In the 80s my office was not happy that I didn’t wear a suit and tie. I dressed casually and never wore a suit. But my team of six casual employees went head to head with the blue-suit/red-tie Price Waterhouse types and won hands down. From that time on, wearing a suit was never brought up again!

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    1. rts – Facing the Challenges of Mental Health

      You are correct about experience!
      While looking for a quote I came upon many of them saying that exact thing.
      There were so many great quotes that I found.

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  2. cheriewhite

    Great post! Everyone has a different definition of success. And I used to compare myself to others all the time when I was young and wonder why I stayed so resentful of others I thought had it easier than I did.

    Later, I stopped the comparisons because it was a real self-esteem killer! Thank you for posting! I know so many who need to read stuff like this!

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    1. rts – Facing the Challenges of Mental Health

      That is truly the secret in most lives, stop comparing yourself to others.
      The minute we stop it peace comes through us!

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      1. cheriewhite

        You can say that again! I wished I’d heeded that advice earlier in life than what I did! 🙂

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