Choices, Which Way Turn Right?


“Every test in our life makes us bitter or better, every problem comes to break us or make us. The choice is ours whether we become victim or victor.” Anonymous


For as long as I can remember I have always made choices in haste. The results on the better part of the percentage was that it was the choice. Those wrong choices caused me to spend unnecessary time and effort working to correct them.

Try as I might I have leaned towards the pessimistic side of every equation. I could blame it on my upbringing, maybe low self-esteem, but it was a matter that being a pessimist looked to be easier, the safest bet to make. The other side being a optimist looked like it would need hard work if I chose going in that direction. I can look back and say was I wanted the easy way out.

I have been asking the question lately, could it be a part of fighting as a bi-polar mindset. Here is some of the research I found:


Pessimism

When to be concerned: With depressive pessimism, the negativity a person experiences is exaggerated compared to the reality of the situation. In fact, pessimistic thinking often precedes any specific event. A person may simply think: It’s going to be another bad day.

The negative viewpoint may not be limited to a person’s external perception of the world; it can also be turned inward onto themselves. Someone who is depressed might think thoughts like, No one likes me.

This negativity may also pervade a person’s self-concept or sense of their abilities. For instance, they may look at a Help Wanted ad and think: There’s no point in applying for that job—I would never get it.

When someone is depressed their perspective on how the world is, as well as who they are, is impaired by negative, often critical, patterns of thought. They may not be able to see (let alone feel) that they have good things in life to look forward to, that people who know them like and care about them, and that they are a capable person who has much to offer.”

https://www.verywellmind.com/difficult-moods-in-bipolar-depression-379838

It looks like I am not alone in my thinking about pessimism and bipolar are linked together. Now, not everyone who is pessimistic is bipolar. That diagnosis is for a clinician to decide.

I am writing this post for it was a subject I wanted to explore. I am not a doctor, psychiatrist, I will leave it at this.

So dear reader what are your thoughts about this issue?

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  1. ashleyleia

    I consider myself a realist, which sometimes involves being negative, but when the reality is negative, I would rather accept what is than fake optimism.

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  2. Chel Owens

    Thank you for including that snippet. It really resonated with me. I suppose I’m irrationally more negative than usual for a good reason!

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  3. Angie

    I have all those thoughts regularly but I also think of myself as having a naturally bubbly personality and I can almost always find the good in every situation or person. I have to wonder just how much energy I’m using to be bubbly and optimistic if I, in fact, may be dealing with some very dark thoughts at the same time. It’s interesting to think that maybe my “personality” is really my coping mechanism, and if that’s even possible.

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    1. rts – Facing the Challenges of Mental Health

      Angie, you are no different than anyone else who smiles on the outside while inside it is topsy turvy, Wearing this mask I feel is quite common!

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