Women & Violent Marriages

Caution: This may sound like a political view, but on the contrary, it is about spousal abuse and the effects that it has on a household.

I lived in such a household. My father would fly into rages and it left us, his children, always on edge. Just recently I found out that when I was quite young my mother would have her father come and take us, the children. It was due to my father and his violent anger.

Has Mr. Vance ever spoken to a person who has lived in such an atmosphere? From the article, I would venture to say, that he has not.

It is more than likely that someone around him has been in such a place. Maybe, the woman who has suffered abuse from an out of control spouse.

Safe homes around the country are there for such women and their children. I personally know of two women in my family who have had to flee to one of these safe homes. They are indiscreet, no signs, no listed telephone numbers, and those seeking refuge are not to disclose where they are in the community.

As I entered high school it became my refuge. I would go to school while it was still dark in the morning and purposely would not return home until I knew my father would be in bed asleep. I was involved in theatre arts, which many of the activities were after school hours. Mostly rehearsals of an upcoming play that was being produced.

Spousal abuse takes many forms. It can be physical, emotional, and sexual. The women feels trapped in their situation believing that they cannot get by without the husband. This is because of years of conditioning, being told that they cannot survive out on their own. It used to be that the women did not work outside of the home and therefore had no means of support.

I have spoken to many women who have left violent marriages. The one thing I heard from many was, “I didn’t think I could make it on my own”! Somewhere, these women find an inner strength, confidence, and determination to become a victor over the violent marriage.

So, dear reader, this blogger, a survivor of abuse, strongly believes that no woman should ever stay in a violent marriage. There are many avenues available to her that she can access.

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  1. Tangie

    Awful situations eloquently said. We must keep others in these situations in prayer. Thank you for awareness.

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    1. rts – Facing the Challenges of Mental Health

      Tangie, thank you for your kind words! I always appreciate hearing from you! God Bless You!

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  2. Ashley L. Peterson

    There sure are some wackadoos currently trying to get elected. I think this dude really needs to look at the adverse childhood experiences research that shows just how damaging it is for kids to grow up in a household where violence is happening.

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    1. rts – Facing the Challenges of Mental Health

      I stand in horror some days watching the cable news from America. I am old enough to remember the riots in 1968. I still can see the images of smoke rising from Detroit, Michigan. Also, at that time they closed the borders, no bridge or tunnel access from Windsor to Detroit and vice versa.
      It seems like history is repeating itself in America. This same attitude arose during the late 1920’s and 30’s. During the war they turned away a boat load of Jewish migrants fleeing from Germany. They were sent back to Germany where most dies in the concentration camps.

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